Miscellany

No one makes it on their own. No one.

I’ve learned throughout the years that no one makes it on their own.  No one.  I don’t care what a cold hearted bastard you are.   No one made it to where they are on their own.  

The quality of your actions, a helping hand and just being an all around good person was set high for me from day one.  My parents are the greatest people I have ever met and many people fear becoming their parents.  I fear not living even close to being as wonderful as them.  If it had not been for these two generous people, God knows where I would be today.  These two people were just as generous to me as they were to other people.  In their generosity and compassion for life and humanity I learned it’s about all of us making it.  And we won’t make it alone.  We need each other.

Thinking that you made it on your own is a big mistake.  If you took a step back and looked at the big picture, we all play a sliver of a roll in peoples lives.  No matter how menial you think it is.  If they had not been there;  Where would you be?   Telling everyone you made it on your own doesn’t mean you actually made it on your own.  It means you’re an ungrateful asshole.

“To the world you may be one person; but to one person you may be the world” – Dr. Seuss 

I have mentioned in the past that I feel it is my duty to wake up people on the train at night.  It might not seem like much, but to those people it might mean not being robbed or being dead tired and just wanting to get home from work.  It’s a form of looking out for one another and a little bit of caring.  Holding the door for someone that doesn’t say “Thank you” makes them an asshole and you a caring individual.  I believe in Karma too, so don’t fret, they will get there’s.  Those people that don’t say “Thank you” are the ones that say they made it on their own.  They didn’t and never will.  None of us will.

I’ve moved numerous times.  Each time I was fortunate enough to have met or been set up with people who were kind enough to take me in and help me out.  I couldn’t be more thankful and appreciative of them all.  I had the opportunity to live in New York, thanks to a phone call and a promising woman who pushed to make sure I got here.  I got front row tickets to concerts by friends helping me.

“We cannot live for ourselves alone.  Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along those sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.” – Herman Melville

I met people and have been helped by many people because I wasn’t afraid to ask. I’ve helped people because they too weren’t afraid to ask.  I met one of my dearest friends ever in a moment like this.  Everyone needs someone, in some capacity. Have you ever thought about the farmer that grows your food?  The person who picks that fruit you’re eating?  The truck driver that brought that food to you? Didn’t think about that did you?  It’s alright.  But you bought it all by yourself because you made it all on your own.   You don’t need anyone, right?  Wrong.

You too have made it because someone helped you.  A little bit.  Maybe a lot.  You sure as hell didn’t make it on your own.  It is yours and mine duty to return the favor to all people, to turn around and extend your hand and help those that need it.  We can all do something to help.  We are all helping others make it.  Somehow, someway.

The video is a must watch.  Even if you are not a fan of Roxette and you don’t have to be to enjoy this amazing song.  I will tell you, the lead singer of Roxette, Marie Fredriksson, was diagnosed with a brain tumor back in 2002 and not given a promising prognosis.  Yet she went on to do two more world tours with Roxette and continue to make amazing music.  As you can tell I’m a huge fan and think she is beyond talented and an inspiration to us all.  Fan or no fan.  You have to love and respect this strong woman.

“Have you ever been in love and thought it’d last forever?  Then you know, no one makes it on their own.” – Roxette

 

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